The Discovery of Female Ejaculation
You can trace the origins of female ejaculation right back to sexual liberation in the 1960s, when women burned their bras.
This was all symbolic of a desire amongst women to explore their sexuality freely and fully – rather than just being objectified as sex objects for men’s pleasure.
Of course fighting against the patriarch in the history of sexual domination by men required empowerment of many different kinds.
For many women, their first empowerment is or was actually having an orgasm – it’s hard to know in retrospect how many women were non-orgasmic in the 1960s, but the figure that has been widely bandied around is 60%.
This astonishing lack of fulfillement is what led to the sexual revolution.
When you think about it that figure of 60% is absolutely astounding. Why? Well, these days, partly due to more relaxed social mores, partly due to the Internet spreading sex education and making erotica freely available, almost every woman would naturally expect to have an orgasm during sexual activity in one way or another.
But things had to start somewhere – and for women to begin masturbating, and even talking openly about sex, was a new development in the 1960s, 70s, and even the 80s.
It was even necessary for women to discover that having fantasies about sex was permissible and acceptable, and that it could help them reach orgasm.
You can see how far away from things like female ejaculation we were until very recently!
In fact, except in a few limited cultures, for most of human history female ejaculation, or squirting as some now call it, was unknown or at best thought of as an abnormality.
In the past most men would not even have been interested in giving women sexual pleasure in this way, either. You see, the sexual dynamic at play in the 1960s to 1970s was that men “used” women to get orgasms, and women “used” sex to get children, protection, money, a settled life. You name it, women have used sex to get it.
And that’s hardly an empowered position! So, together with a move in society for women to become more empowered in other ways, the 1980s were perhaps the start of the process of sexual liberation, or, more accurately, sexual education.
Role models like Madonna – the pop star – helped make sexual women acceptable, and images of assertive women normal.
Madonna: Sex (Lyrics)
“Soaking wet, Let me get on top, back and forth till we break the bed.”
Cultural Change Around Sexuality Orgasm & Squirting
Along with the cultural change in the way women were perceived, a whole body of work was necessary to encourage women to be truly sexual and to inhabit their sexual personas fully.
This was work done by pioneers like Betty Dodson, Annie Sprinkle, and the early experts in Tantric sexuality.
So through the 1990s and 2000s, women’s sexual exploration of their own bodies continued, with the aid of adult films on the Internet and the burgeoning amount of erotica available for women who could now see what might perhaps be expected in the way of sexual pleasure.
Of course discoveries about female sexuality and the capacity of a woman’s body to produce intense sexual pleasure have continued right up to this day, and I think we could safely say that the Internet has made squirting both normal and acceptable.
What is certainly true of course is that most women now expect to have an orgasm during sexual activity, if not during intercourse itself.
Photos of a woman reaching orgasm during intercourse.
The variety of sexual activities that men and women can enjoy have increased exponentially as knowledge about sexual pleasure has become more widely available.
But even so, there are still very few men who really know how they can make a woman squirt, and it’s fair to say that limited numbers of men and women are exploring female ejaculation.
That’s disappointing, because not only does the exploration of human sexuality lead to better orgasms, it actually has something to teach us about ourselves. For one thing, sexual expression can help us in expressing emotions, thoughts, feelings and desires.
True sexual expression – which means uninhibited sexual expression – can help us come more creative and imaginative.
But in addition, being fully informed about the rights and possibilities of sex allows people – perhaps women in particular – to set clear boundaries, and make informed choices about what they want.
In the process we can all become more tolerant and understanding of others who have different sexual expectations and perhaps choose to follow a sexual path that we ourselves find difficult to understand.
All in all, sex can become a means to express oneself.
In the archetypal model of the human personality formed by Carl Jung, there are four main archetypes: the King, the Warrior, the Magician, and the Lover.
Women naturally fall into lover energy when they move into their teens and experience a blossoming of their sexuality. This is a necessary part of their development as women.
And for those teenagers whose sexuality is suppressed and repressed, denied and hidden, the exploration of sexual desire is not only a way of obtaining pleasure, but also a way to recovering the full energy contained in their lover archetype.
Without this, there can be no full expression of their female, their innate femininity.
Now I’m not suggesting that learning to squirt – discovering how to female ejaculate – is absolutely necessary for a woman to rediscover her sexuality and explore her feminine archetypes, but I know that it certainly helps a woman become more uninhibited, more sexual, and feel her feminine energy flow more easily.
And that’s good for all of us – to become more fully ourselves, by exploring every aspect of our personality – including our sexuality.
In short, the more we care for and honor our sexuality, and the more we develop our innate sexual energy and sexuality, the happier and more well-adjusted – perhaps even fulfilled – we will all become.