Men: Want To Know How To Give A Woman An Orgasm?
As any man who’s been in a relationship with a woman is likely to understand, women don’t always appreciate the male approach to problems – fixing. Doing something.
Sometimes women just want to talk, share and feel their emotions.
So if you want to know how to give a woman an orgasm, it’s important to avoid that very masculine approach to making her come – that is, treating your sexual experience with her like it’s some kind of a challenge or problem to be fixed.
If You Want To Give Her An Orgasm, Start By Making Her Feel Good
If you want to make a woman come, you need to adopt an approach to sex which makes her feel like you’re right there with her. She needs to know you are sharing the experience, loving every minute of it, enjoying the sensuality, and feeling intimate with her.
But good gracious, I hear you say, you’re a man, how can you do that emotional stuff and give a woman an orgasm at the same time?
Well, it’s possible. The answer is to be so confident in your sexual skills with a woman that you can relax. That way you can bring her off AND you’ll feel close to her at the same time. And when you really know how to give a woman an orgasm, she’ll feel your confidence and respond to it.
What You Read About Female Orgasm May Not Help Much
If you look around the Internet, much of material that’s been published about how to make a woman come, how to help her achieve orgasm, is very much along the lines of an instruction manual.
But knowing how to give a girl an orgasm isn’t just about knowing the fastest way to bring her to orgasm. It’s about knowing how to make a woman come, as well as knowing how to make her happy. It’s about being sure you know how to please her in bed physically, and satisfy her emotionally both in and out of bed.
So let’s get started on this definitely non-instruction-manual approach to satisfying sex and pleasing a woman in bed.
There are many ways you can help a woman to reach orgasm.
But first and foremost among them is what we could call “unconscious foreplay”. In other words, you show her how much you love her and how much you want to share pleasure with her in subtle ways that mean a great deal to any woman.
You might want to leave a romantic love note in her underwear drawer which she’s going to find after you’ve left for work, or you might want to send her flowers unexpectedly, so she gets a delivery while you’re out of the house. You might want to send her a romantic text message, or to spend more time kissing and hugging her, so that she knows how valuable she is to you.
Just being together and intimate is a great way to start out when you’re aiming to please a woman by bringing her to orgasm.That’s what we call good foreplay!
Most men find foreplay a trifle tedious, but it doesn’t have to be. If you incorporate foreplay into every aspect of your daily life, it can be fun!
This is the kind of romancing that a woman needs to make her feel sexual.
You know that old cliche about men needing sex to feel loving? Well it’s true, and so is the other one, about women needing to be loved to feel sexy.
So, moving on, did you know that most women find kissing extremely sexy? That women love to kiss, provided it’s done skilfully and with love and care? Studies have shown that kissing your partner reduces the level of cortisol in your system.
And to revert to an instruction manual approach for a minute, get this: as you kiss her, tilt your head to the right. Apparently scientists in Germany found this has more of a positive impact on a woman than any other orientation. Though this seems somewhat improbable, it apparently makes her think of you as more caring. This causes her brain to produce more oxytocin, which the hormone that influences bonding. Who knew?
Another thing. When you have her in a romantic, ahem, situation, you’re not simply going to kiss her mouth, are you? Women’s bodies are sensitive all over, and they respond well to gentle and sensitive kissing.
Of course the main objective here is to ensure you know how to give a woman an orgasm. So, let’s suppose you’re with her in an intimate situation and you’re beginning to take off some clothes.
Each time you, or she, takes off some article of clothing, stand back for a moment and look at her body and admire it. Women can be very self-conscious a woman about their appearance, particularly in a sexual situation. This is because they constantly appraise how beautiful or attractive they are, mostly in comparison to other women, but also in comparison to some internal standard of beauty that they live by.
Your woman wants and needs nothing more than to be appreciated, admired, reassured and cherished. She needs this not just once, but over and over again. By doing this you can make a woman feel confident about her body.
Keep telling her how beautiful her body is and how sexy and attractive she is… that will relax her mind and body and so make her more likely to reach orgasm.And of course when she feels confident about her body, she’s also going to feel sexy. That’s because she can relax into her physicality, and open up to the possibility of reaching orgasm without fear of judgement from you.
You’ve probably heard many times that when you’re trying to make a woman come, when you’re trying to get a girl to orgasm, you don’t go straight for the parts of her body that might be most attractive to you – breasts, clitoris, vulva and so on.
You need to tease her, working your way round to her vulva and breasts, gently stroking up towards her vulva and then veering off the last minute, for example.
This teasing is going to raise her anticipation and will get her more aroused. This is going to make her orgasm more easily, and the more excited she is, the more powerful her orgasm will be!
When you finally do move from stroking her body to stroking her sexually sensitive areas, make sure you do it right. You have to know how to give a woman an orgasm so you’re confident in bed, remember?
Take Your Time Before Penetration!
You might be accustomed to turning her on, and then, just as she’s getting aroused, plunging into her, thrusting vigorously, and reaching your own orgasm quickly.
Now, although that might be an attractive recipe for your sexual menu, it’s not going to do very much for her. In fact it’s probably going to leave her “hanging”, aroused and unsatisfied, without an orgasm. And you really don’t want her to masturbate to orgasm after you’ve gone to sleep, do you? Do you? No, of course not…..
So the most reliable route to orgasm, the easiest way to bring a woman off is to enjoy oral sex with her.
However, what a woman wants in the way of oral clitoral stimulation is probably specific to her, so you’re going to have to be sensitive to her responses. She’s going to show you if she likes what you’re doing by means of her bodily movements and the sounds she makes.
If she’s aroused she’ll probably raise her vulva towards your mouth. If you feel her body moving away from your mouth slightly, then you may need to change what you’re doing to turn her on more.
But if you hear her moaning, keep doing what you’re doing, and keep the pace steady. Unlike you, she’s going to want a steady rhythm of stimulation until she’s very near orgasm (then you can speed up).
If you can bring her off with oral pleasure (cunnilingus), and she’ll most likely be very grateful for that, because most women say that oral pleasure is their very favourite sexual activity.
The best estimate is that around 15% of women can reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone.
So, the simple truth is that if you want to make a woman come, if you want to give a woman an orgasm, you are most likely going to do it with oral or manual pleasuring before intercourse.
The great thing is that after she’s come she will probably welcome you into her body! And you’ll enjoy intercourse much more because she’s aroused and satisfied, and her vagina will be warm, wet, and ready for penetration.
Here are some more important pointers!
First, a lot of sexual practice (i.e. having a lot of sexual intercourse) can help a man learn how to make a woman come consistently.
Years of intercourse seem to increase a woman’s attainment of orgasm. But the elaborateness of the sexual stimulation delivered to women is not correlated with sexual responsiveness…. now, why would that be?
For example, the number of intercourse positions a couple use and the length of foreplay had no particular correlations with how to make a woman orgasm consistently.
Beyond knowing a bit about a woman’s erogenous zones, the factors facilitating sexual arousal seem to be largely emotional and interpersonal, involving feelings of intimacy, closeness, trust, dependability and love.
Even so, women with orgasm difficulties may criticize their sex partners for not being sufficiently expert to stimulate them properly, for not knowing how to make them come.
Many questions about female sexuality are still not really understood. These questions include:
1. How does culture affect the social factors which make a woman orgasm more or less easily?
A study here would provide an opportunity for directly evaluating the idea that cultural factors play a role in a woman finding she cannot orgasm easily.
Being unable to ejaculate is sometimes a problem for men, but it is not a condition which has any obvious counterpart in women, where anorgasmia or low libido are probably the most common sexual dysfunctions.
When a woman cannot climax she is much more likely not to have experienced her father as a dependable love object than a woman who reaches orgasm easily.
3. A related question is around the possible role of the male partner: does he know how to make a woman come easily and quickly?
Her feelings about his lack of dependability as a love object may mean she cannot orgasm so easily.
A study on this would probably have to be carried out on married couples.
The attributes of the partner reflecting his dependability might well be correlated with his woman’s tendency to reach orgasm easily. You could evaluate the man with respect to traits such as conscientiousness and ability to identify with his woman, and you could also find out how much confidence she had in him.
Parallel to such inquiries, it would be informative to have a sample of men keep “diaries” in which they would record how often they know successfully made the woman come over a period of time.
4 Does orgasm consistency decline when the partner is planning to be away from home for a while? Do crises in the family, such as illness of children or financial difficulties, make it more likely she cannot get off?
If a woman loses one of her close friends does this adversely affect her ability to get off by increasing her uncertainty about the dependability of objects?
Does successful achievement in life influence a woman’s orgasmic potential? Do periods of sexual deprivation make her less likely to get off? Check out this personal account: I just do not know how to make a woman come!
5 How does sexual excitement build up to orgasmic levels?
One thing that certainly might make a difference to a woman’s capacity to reach orgasm is her husband’s ability to hold his ejaculation in check.
Any man who has a tendency to ejaculate too quickly should seek out help with some kind of program for premature ejaculation treatment which might enable him to last longer during intercourse before he ejaculates.
Furthermore, it might prove of value in helping to develop practical procedures that would enable a man to make a woman orgasm more easily.
6. What are possible treatment procedures for increasing orgasm consistency in women who have sexual response difficulties?
For example, one could compare joint counseling with a more complex therapy that focuses on the history of a woman’s relationships with her father.
7. How do different women experience their male sex partners when receiving clitoral or vaginal stimulation?
How much do the men know about how to make a woman climax? To what extent do sexual techniques and positions, and knowledge of female sexual anatomy and female sexual behavior, create a man’s ability to give her an orgasm?