Squirting, Gushing, Ejaculation!

The secrets behind the pleasure of discovering how to make a woman squirt when she reaches orgasm.

Discover Squirting – Part 1

1 Find Her G Spot 

The first step is to find the places on a woman’s G spot which are most sensitive. These may not remain the same from one session of sex to the next, but you can always have fun finding them again!

The best way to do this is for the woman to tell her partner what feels good as he explores your vagina with a gentle finger – a finger that is smooth, without any hangnails, and very well lubed.

One of the problems here is that men may try to take charge of this process, which can be challenging for women who are not assertive in bed.

But bear in mind this is about female power, so it’s important the woman gives feedback to her partner on what she’s feeling; and especially on what feels good, what feels better, and what feels best as he moves his finger over her G spot.

And although this sounds like it’s the man’s job to make his woman ejaculate, the woman should be in control at all times.

She needs to give him the information he needs to stimulate her in the way that is most pleasurable.

If you can both make the exploration of the G spot playful and erotic, perhaps with a sense of discovery, you’ll be engaged and interested, and want to play more in the future.

For women: 

To start with, you’re going to find your ability to ejaculate depends more on your capacity to lose yourself in a state of sexual arousal than it does on sexual positions or technique.

In fact opening up to your feminine energy can be a very good metaphor for the process of opening up to the possibility of releasing Amrita, the sexual fluid that comes from the female prostate and is ejaculated at the moment of orgasm.

But nonetheless you might want to try some specific positions to make it easier to ejaculate. One of the easiest is the missionary position, where the woman puts her legs up on her partner’s shoulders.

This will give him access to the opening of the vagina and the G spot with both finger and penis, and also gives you or him access to your clitoris to increase sexual arousal.

For both men and women:

Although the basis of female ejaculation – and indeed knowing how to make a woman come – is G spot stimulation, you can maintain the woman’s arousal and keep it building as you explore G spot stimulation with the man’s finger or erect penis by continually stimulating her clitoris.

(This might be possible during intercourse if the man has enough ejaculation control. But generally it’s more likely to be during finger play inside her, perhaps with simultaneous oral stimulation of the clitoris.)

2 Connect emotionally.

Eye gazing and intimate connection, and lots and lots of compassionate, connected and loving foreplay, can really help a woman open her heart and her body.

Men, being very goal oriented, may want to rush ahead to the climax (i.e. making the woman squirt!) and finish things quickly as possible. And it’s great to take things slowly.

Again, this is where the woman needs to be assertive, to control what’s happening for a couple.

After all, by learning to squirt, she is discovering how to give her man even more sexual pleasure: a great gift for a woman to give to her man.

He can honor this gift by respecting her process, moving at her speed, and supporting her – rather than trying to direct the process as they learn how to make her squirt.

A great position for G spot stimulation is oral sex, where the man can stimulate a woman’s clitoris, urethral opening, and vulva with his tongue – and he may even find that his tongue can reach a woman’s G spot near the entrance to her vagina if it swells and drops down as she becomes more aroused.

But whatever he does, the slower he goes the better, and at the point where the woman wants him to insert a finger as a prelude to stimulating the G spot – and hopefully making her squirt – he can do that very slowly but firmly, starting perhaps with the classic “come-hither” motion with his finger which is seen in so many videos and recommended in so many books.

3 Shift your focus from clitoris to G spot.

Not all women want something in their vagina when they ejaculate, so if this is true for you then you need to find a sexual position in which the man can easily withdraw his fingers or penis when you’re about to ejaculate. (Standing up rear entry might fall into that category!)

The key to ejaculating easily and pleasurably is for the woman to have sufficient G spot arousal and stimulation before the man enters her vagina with penis or fingers.

She can tell him to move at whatever speed suits her best, depending on where she is on the way to ejaculation. It’s best done in a way that won’t make him feel he is being told what to do!

So, for example, keep it positive – don’t say “NO! Don’t do that” but do say things like “Oh, that’s so sensitive and so delicious!”

Bear in mind it’s going to take a few sessions before both of you fully understand nature of G spot stimulation and ejaculation, but there’s no pressure on either of you to succeed quickly (or indeed at all).

4 Take your time and enjoy the exploration of your body and your sexuality.

As Deborah Sundahl says in her book, Female Ejaculation and The G Spot, the focus on sex positions will drop away over time and be replaced by a sense of the focus on emotional connection – on losing yourself in physical pleasure and emotional connection with your partner.

And at that point, even the excitement of having a man who knows how to make a woman squirt may become secondary to the process of enjoying sex together!

Location of the female G Spot

Discover Squirting Part 2

A lot of couples think female ejaculation is a complete myth (or maybe a woman’s urinating during sex or she cant stop herself a condition called coital incontinence).

Yeah, right. The first time a woman female ejaculates – boy, does that ever change your mind about whats real!

And the first thing that runs through most women’s mind is Where did that fluid come from? Closely followed by And what the heck is it?

How To Make A Woman Ejaculate

So let’s try and find out what’s going on, and how to do it deliberately. That’s what a lot of men want to do make their woman squirt. Are you willing? yes? Lets go.

To start with, female ejaculation is not always the same experience: sometimes the fluid squirts out in a stream, sometimes it gushes out dramatically, and sometimes it just dribbles.

And sometimes it can be produced in such quantities that its a real nuisance.

(Sidebar: yes, even if it’s news to you, women have prostatic tissue surrounding their urethra – its known as the Skenes glands, or the paraurethral sponge, or sometimes the female prostate.)

As to what the fluid is, well, debate continues. Some people think its a slightly different type of urine – which it obviously is, because the fluid contains PSA enzymes produced by prostatic tissue, which isn’t present in normal urine.

The thing about female ejaculatory fluid is that its usually quite sweet tasting and doesn’t smell like urine – it simply is NOT normal urine. Some scientists have gone to a lot of trouble to prove that this fluid comes from the bladder, while Tantric devotees say that it doesn’t come from the bladder at all, its just the physical manifestation of sexual energy.

Here’s an extract from Wikipedia: While current information offers no solid information about the source of the fluid, chemical analysis performed on the fluid has revealed that while it sometimes contains at least traces of urine, it regularly contains chemical markers unique to the prostate (whether male or female).

In the end, it really doesn’t matter – its the experience that is important.

So lets look at how you might produce this wonderful experience, and if you’re a man, find out how to make a woman squirt.

Sidebar: By the way, in case you’re wondering, most girls in porno videos are actually pissing with great force – but most women who GENUINELY female ejaculate genuinely know that what they squirt is not urine – it doesn’t taste or smell like urine, and it doesn’t feel like it either. And it certainly doesn’t leave behind urine’s characteristic smell when it dries on your sheets.

So if you’re interested in finding out where its coming from, simply do some research on the Internet – you’ll probably come to the conclusion that nobody really knows.

Knowing How to Make Your Girl Squirt

We’re not sure how many women ejaculate, but it’s probably between 0 and 100 percent.

Bad joke out of the way, research has shown that all women can ejaculate. Women who don’t seem to be able to ejaculate may have a way of clenching their muscles – perhaps because they think they’re peeing during sex – which directs urine back into the bladder, while their less inhibited sisters just let it flow.

The G spot Is Everything

As you know, with arousal, a woman’s G spot swells, and the surface of her G spot changes texture from rough and ridged to smooth and squishy. At the same time the tissue around the urethra, including the paraurethral sponge or the Skenes glands, start to produce ejaculatory fluid.

This fluid can be pushed out through the urethra during the contractions of orgasm. That’s female ejaculation.

However, a lot of women feel a sudden excitement during stimulation of a particular spot on their G spot during finger stimulation or vaginal thrusting by a mans penis, and suddenly fear they are going to urinate.

That fear stops the experience dead, because clenching the pelvic muscles stops whats happening and either forces the ejaculatory fluid back into the bladder or simply aborts ejaculation completely.

Video How To Squirt 101

Note the presenter draws a distinction between female ejaculation and gushing or squirting. Some Tantric devotees would argue with her about this.

Female Ejaculation

So you need to be confident and accept that you’re not going to pee – you’re about to female ejaculate.

And even if you do pee, as you’ve seen already, the fluid that comes out will NOT be like urine, so as long as you have some towels around, there’s no problem.

Depending on the force with which you push while you’re ejaculating, the amount of fluid expelled will vary – but you be comforted to know, perhaps, that the average amount is 2 tablespoons – quite manageable!

Make Her Squirt!

All women can ejaculate, because all women have the paraurethral sponge. A lot of women produce fluid during sex but think they’re urinating, which makes them tense, and then their inability to relax, to bear down and push out, prevents the release of their fluid.

As you can imagine, this is often because of an inhibitions about sex and wetting the bed. If that really bothers you, then empty your bladder before sex starts. That way you can be sure that what you’re going to eject isn’t urine.

Women: Top Tips For Making The SQUIRT!

• The best way to experience female ejaculation is to strengthen your PC muscles. If you can contract and release them at will, this can help with the process of bearing down at the moment of orgasm when you feel like you’re going to pee.
• In addition, you can have your man add clitoral stimulation to G spot stimulation – whether he’s doing the G spot stimulation with fingers or penis.
• If you as a woman are familiar with your own G spot, then you’re more likely to be relaxed about the whole process.
• Empty your bladder before you start; that way you wont have any anxiety about peeing.
• And when you feel you’re about to have an orgasm, don’t clench up; bear down and push out any fluid which has built up in the Skenes or paraurethral tissue.
• This pushing is critical to experiencing ejaculation.
• Give yourself permission to let go and have fun!