Don’t Know How To Give A Woman An Orgasm?
A lot of sexual practice (i.e. having a lot of sexual intercourse) can help a man learn how to make a woman come consistently.
Years of intercourse seem to increase a woman’s attainment of orgasm. But the elaborateness of the sexual stimulation delivered to women is not correlated with sexual responsiveness…. now, why would that be?
For example, the number of intercourse positions a couple use and the length of foreplay had no particular correlations with how to make a woman orgasm consistently.
Beyond knowing a bit about a woman’s erogenous zones, the factors facilitating sexual arousal seem to be largely emotional and interpersonal, involving feelings of intimacy, closeness, trust, dependability and love.
Even so, women with orgasm difficulties may criticize their sex partners for not being sufficiently expert to stimulate them properly, for not knowing how to make them come.
Many questions about female sexuality are still not really understood. These questions include:
1. How does culture affect the social factors which make a woman orgasm more or less easily?
A study here would provide an opportunity for directly evaluating the idea that cultural factors play a role in a woman finding she cannot orgasm easily.
Being unable to ejaculate is sometimes a problem for men, but it is not a condition which has any obvious counterpart in women, where anorgasmia or low libido are probably the most common sexual dysfunctions.
When a woman cannot climax she is much more likely not to have experienced her father as a dependable love object than a woman who reaches orgasm easily.
3. A related question is around the possible role of the male partner: does he know how to make a woman come easily and quickly?
Her feelings about his lack of dependability as a love object may mean she cannot orgasm so easily.
A study on this would probably have to be carried out on married couples.
The attributes of the partner reflecting his dependability might well be correlated with his woman’s tendency to reach orgasm easily. You could evaluate the man with respect to traits such as conscientiousness and ability to identify with his woman, and you could also find out how much confidence she had in him.
Parallel to such inquiries, it would be informative to have a sample of men keep “diaries” in which they would record how often they know successfully made the woman come over a period of time.
4 Does orgasm consistency decline when the partner is planning to be away from home for a while? Do crises in the family, such as illness of children or financial difficulties, make it more likely she cannot get off?
If a woman loses one of her close friends does this adversely affect her ability to get off by increasing her uncertainty about the dependability of objects?
Does successful achievement in life influence a woman’s orgasmic potential? Do periods of sexual deprivation make her less likely to get off? Check out this personal account: I just do not know how to make a woman come!
5 How does sexual excitement build up to orgasmic levels?
One thing that certainly might make a difference to a woman’s capacity to reach orgasm is her husband’s ability to hold his ejaculation in check.
Any man who has a tendency to ejaculate too quickly should seek out help with some kind of program for premature ejaculation treatment which might enable him to last longer during intercourse before he ejaculates.
Furthermore, it might prove of value in helping to develop practical procedures that would enable a man to make a woman orgasm more easily.
6. What are possible treatment procedures for increasing orgasm consistency in women who have sexual response difficulties?
For example, one could compare joint counseling with a more complex therapy that focuses on the history of a woman’s relationships with her father.
7. How do different women experience their male sex partners when receiving clitoral or vaginal stimulation?
How much do the men know about how to make a woman climax? To what extent do sexual techniques and positions, and knowledge of female sexual anatomy and female sexual behavior, create a man’s ability to give her an orgasm?