Take Your Sex Life Into Orbit With Female Ejaculation
Female ejaculation is one of the most exciting and arousing experiences that you can have! But some women shy away from it because they tend to think that it’s not “ladylike”, while men are really turned on by it…
What you have to understand here is that for the vast majority of men, nothing is more exciting during sexual activity than a woman who is so turned on that she can actually ejaculate.
You see, men love sex with a woman who has aroused them, and the best way for that to happen is for the woman to be highly aroused herself.
That way your relationships will not only be sexually exciting, they will also be infused with mutual love and bliss – allowing you to be friends as well as lovers!
Sure – I’m not saying that being with a woman who has learned how to ejaculate will make you both fall madly in love! But sexual experimentation and mutual excitement certainly helps! (Advice on how a woman can get a man’s love can be found here.)
Indeed, in all my experience researching female ejaculation, 90% of men I’ve interviewed have really adored it, and many were aroused by female ejaculation more than anything else.
By squirting, a woman demonstrates that she is highly aroused, relaxed about her sexuality, and sexually energized- and willing to please your lover!
There’s no question about female ejaculation being one of the ways in which women can reach a peak of sexual enjoyment far greater than during almost any other sexual activity.
That’s because the orgasms induced by G spot stimulation, which are responsible for female ejaculation, are of a different quality to clitoral orgasms.
The G spot, or the “clitoral-urethral complex”, as some scientists now prefer to call it, is full of pelvic nerves. This innervation is mystically different (I was originally typingdistinctly different, but I think maybe mystically is probably the more appropriate word!) to that of the clitoris.
The clitoris appears to be stimulated by a more or less mechanical stimulation of finger or tongue, and this can lead to a very pleasant but purely physical orgasm.
G spot stimulation appears to produce an emotional quality to a woman’s orgasm which is about connection with partner, connection to self, and perhaps even connection to the universe at large.
In that sense, G spot orgasms have a transpersonal quality which lends the depth and profundity that is hard to experience in any other form of female orgasm.
You can combine G spot orgasms with the physical pleasure of the clitoral orgasm, by massaging the G spot in a particular way, or by having it continually strokes during long-lasting intercourse by man’s erect penis.
However, I think there are comparatively few men who can sustain an erection for long enough to be able to bring a woman to G spot orgasm during intercourse… Most men ejaculate long before the woman is ready to come in this way.
That means most G spot stimulation which leads female ejaculation is going to have to be done by means of a finger or a sex toy… And although that isn’t quite the same as having it produced by your lovers erect penis thrusting inside your vagina, it’s still a pretty good way of achieving this level of sexual pleasure. Read more about how to make a woman come here.
Female Ejaculation – How to enjoy female ejaculation
Although it’s highly informative, this video doesn’t emphasize sufficiently the fact that the G spot orgasm is primarily the product of an intimate loving connection between a woman and her partner.
G spot orgasms are very different to clitoral orgasms, as I said above, and they depend on intimacy and connection which goes beyond the physicality of a sexual relationship into the emotional bond between two people.
Techniques like eye gazing, massage, physical connection, gentle touching and cuddling, coordinated breathing, and chakra alignment are all very necessary for a couple to experience the intimacy necessary for a woman to melt into state of her being which can experience a G spot orgasm.
One interesting aspect of all of this is the disrespect for the female orgasm, which the patriarchy has embodied and appears to continue to embody in many different forms even in the 21st-century.
Rather than dividing orgasms into clitoral, vaginal, and G-spot, they should all be referred to as “female orgasms,” says a new paper in Clinical Anatomy.
Glamour Magazine is some interesting things to say about the G spot and clitoral orgasm. The paper suggests that all orgasms, whether clitoral, vaginal or G spot, should simply be referred to as “the female orgasm”.
This is because the idea of the “internal clitoris”, which some people think is the cause of vaginal orgasms, is a myth, say Vincenzo Puppo and Giulia Puppo, sexologists at the Italian Centre of Sexology.
They say that the clitoris is in fact just an external structure and it’s at the root of all female orgasms. Their paper suggests that a term which has come into popular usage, i.e. “clitoral bulbs”, should in fact be replaced with the phrase “vestibular bulbs”, because there is no connection anatomically between the clitoris and the vagina.
They claim that vaginal orgasms are really caused by stimulating the surrounding erectile tissue such as the clitoris and labia minora, and not by anything which is happening inside a woman’s body.
This is a remarkable claim, and a lot people will find it controversial.
One thing the Puppos do suggest which I’d tend to agree with, is that orgasm is possible for every woman if the clitoris is stimulated in the right way.
They make the point, quite correctly, that a lot of female orgasm is down to mental activity, and a woman can put a great deal of pressure on herself if she thinks she “ought” to come every time she has sex.
Equally, the feeling of failure if she doesn’t come can be quite devastating to a woman’s confidence about her ability to reach orgasm.
The idea that the clit is the sole source of female orgasm might even be encouraging to women who feel they’re on the brink of orgasm but never quite tip over into it. If this were true they would have a focus of sexual attention and wouldn’t need to worry about their G spot!
And the orgasm gap between men and women is something that really needs to be rectified. To be honest, what that probably means is men spending more time and effort making sure that their partners are sexually satisfied.
Finally, women shouldn’t feel inadequate if they can’t orgasm from penetration alone. Statistics often suggest that very few women can reach orgasm from penetration – but there are some who know that they can, and do!
How does their experience fit into the research of the sexolgist Puppos? Well, who knows – it’s one of the mysteries of the female body and the female orgasm that not every experience of orgasm can be easily explained in terms of conventional views of anatomy and sexual experience.
Perhaps that’s simply part of the attraction and mystery of human sexuality.